For too long, bisexuality has been misunderstood, dismissed, or simply erased. One of the most common—and damaging—misconceptions about bisexual people is that they are confused. Caught between worlds. Unsure of what they really want.
But let us be perfectly clear: bisexuality is not confusion. It's a valid sexual orientation. It doesn't require explanation, justification, or a timeline.
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⚧🌈 Where Does the "Confused" Stereotype Come From? ⚧🌈
The idea that bisexual people are confused often comes from binary thinking: the belief that you must be either straight or gay, and nothing in between. For people who haven’t experienced attraction to more than one gender, it may be hard to imagine loving or desiring across those boundaries.
Some assume that a bisexual person in a relationship with someone of a different gender must be straight, or that being with someone of the same gender means they're actually gay. This kind of thinking erases the fluid, expansive nature of bisexuality.
It also overlooks a crucial truth: who someone is with doesn't change who they are.
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⚧🌈 The Reality of Bisexual Identity ⚧🌈
Bisexual people can experience attraction in different ways, at different times, and in different intensities. That doesn't make them indecisive. It just makes them human.
In fact, many bisexuals come to understand their identity with great clarity. They may have spent years questioning, exploring, and challenging societal norms. When they say they’re bi, it’s not a placeholder or a step on the way to something else. It’s who they are.
Bisexual people are teachers, parents, creatives, scientists, activists, athletes—you name it. They live full, complex lives just like anyone else, and their identity deserves the same respect as any other.
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⚧🌈 The Harm of the Confusion Narrative. ⚧🌈
Calling bisexuals confused does real damage. It undermines their relationships. It discourages people from coming out. It creates distance between bisexual individuals and the broader LGBTQ+ community.
It also contributes to mental health disparities. Studies have shown that bisexual people face higher rates of anxiety, depression, and suicidal ideation—not because of their orientation, but because of how society treats them.
By challenging the narrative of confusion, we help create space for bi people to be seen, heard, and understood on their own terms.
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⚧🌈 At Bi & Beyond, We’re Not Here to Explain Ourselves ⚧🌈
We’re here to exist unapologetically. We’re here to connect with others who understand us. We’re here to celebrate being bi—not as something between two endpoints, but as something complete and powerful in itself.
Whether you’re newly out, long out, or still figuring it all out—there’s room for you. No confusion. No disclaimers.
Just truth, freedom, and belonging.
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Join us at Bi & Beyond, where bisexuality isn’t misunderstood or minimised. It’s embraced. Fully.
Event details here: https://www.spicymatch.com/events/55148/
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